Think of someone you have perhaps been unfairly critical of or judgmental towards recently. What assumptions did you make about them and their situation? Now think of a time where someone else has either judged you unfairly or given you the benefit of the doubt. How did you feel?What is something you could do today to show compassion to someone in your life?
Have you ever heard "you shouldn't judge a book by its cover? What about what they did to you or what they are doing to your friend.Yes this person has done some things that affected us with loss of money,time and a whole lot of stress! They are currently taking advantage of my friend too.I think the best thing I can do to show compassion is to stop resenting her and pray that things work out for her in her current situation.
Sometimes we make snap judgements based on looks.Sometimes we barely know someone and we get to see the worse side first! It is said first impressions are important.What if I am having a bad day and I lose it on some clerk at the store.Is that really me? Is it hard not to think the worst? Yes!
I love what Jarl Forsman says in 3 causes for judging people and (how to accept yourself)"Most judgments of others are ego strategies to avoid uncomfortable feelings. However, if you lack the awareness of where they come from, they can lead to even more discomfort down the line.
Becoming aware of the nature of your judgments doesn’t mean that you no longer have preferences. You may still notice that certain types of behavior seem unappealing.
But with right understanding and a little work, discernment rather than judgment kicks in and causes you to feel compassion for others, even if you’re not enthusiastic about their behavior.
At the very least, you’ll feel neutral.
Discernment is awareness and understanding without an emotional response. Exercising discernment feels very different from getting your buttons pushed. Judgments that cause emotional reactions are clues to help you find personal insight."
What does it mean to become aware of the nature of your judgements?I think this means we make a judgement with our emotions and without knowing why or getting to know that person.Lets look at it like our mind is like a GPS.We are trying to get from point A to B in our day.Our thoughts are cruising along but then you come to a point where your thoughts don't know where they are going.Something happens in your day to throw you off track.We are left to our thoughts only,our emotions take over.We need to look at our thoughts and redirect.We need to find an alternate route.Once we know where we are(why we feel like we do) we can get back on track and not let it ruin our day.Without an emotional response we stay on route.