Reaching in Reaching out-Week 7 (14 days and 14 ways to show love-Day 12

It has been a hard week!Ever since I got the news about the heart attack I have been preoccupied, stressed and self centered.We all worry about our loved ones.It is natural.It’s easy for me to feel out of control with worry and worst-case scenario thinking.In time of high stress and loss you need to take care of yourself.

See extreme self care for yourself for some great ideas to not let the worry or sadness get the best of you.

As I sit here reflecting I realize my husband has done whatever I needed.Granted,I have been at the hospital a lot!But what have I done for him?My kids?He has held me while I cried and taken the kids when I crashed with exhaustion!

I am hoping tomorrow finds me well rested and more aware of my husband and kids!I could go on a walk with just my husband or write a letter expressing my appreciation.It is easy to forget to ask "how are you?"or how do you feel about all of this?I can play with my kids and snuggle with them.

If you haven't asked yet,ask what makes your husband and kids feel loved and happy?

Prayer for today
That they would be free from stress.
This is really fitting considering all the stress we have been under!

Home
I am trying to keep up on the basics but not a lot of time for my home.:(For today do something in your home that makes you feel less stressed when you walk in.You could pick up or straighten something.

Reaching in and Reaching out-Week 6(14 days and 14 ways to show love-Day 7-10

Day 7,8,9,10

I have gotten very behind on my posts.It has been very stressful.Someone has had a heart attack and now what to do next has been pulling at my heart strings.I am afraid I have not been as selfless as I wanted for my Spouse.I was suposed to make him breakfast in bed,but I was up all night battling my tears.What did he do?He made me breakfast.That is love!Love is being able to look past your wants and needs and serve your Spouse or kids.Did you know you can serve your family?It means dropping everything even being right,when you hear,I need YOU.

Yes you matter
Open arms and heart
Understanding and forgiveness

Our Valentines plans had to be posponed because of this family emergency.Still if a birthday,anniversary or other special occasions need to be cancelled or changed,you can still make sure your with the one you love.Times of difficulty can bring you together.Make sure that feelings aren't hurt or of a resentful nature.Just enjoy time together and make that the priority.Let go of the idea of having a perfect anniversary and just be grateful they are with you during this difficult time.

Reaching in and Reaching out-Week 6(14 daysand 14 ways to show love-Day 6)

Image belongs to Kristianne Rushton 

Betty Larrea,yoga instructor and writer, says:

"Each time I get on my mat, I am opening my heart to myself. I become more aware of myself ~ physically, emotionally, energetically. I am fully aware of my body, its strengths and its limitations. I can see where I am holding tension in my body, where I can let go more, ease up more, connect more and love myself more."

Today to show love:

For MYSELF
I love yoga.I love how I can just focus on what my body is doing abd I can let it all go.I wanted to focus on opening our heart to love and be loved.It is also important to be selfless in giving this love.6-simple-yoga-poses-to-balance-and-open-the-heart-chakra/

For my HUSBAND
How do you love your Spouse with your whole heart?First open your heart to love.Make time for one another.Beware of being too critical and damaging his or your heart.Know where your spouses has vulnerability and help him feel secure and never use his weakness in an argument or against him!

For my KIDS
Let your kids see that you notice them for the good things they do.Let them know how they have touched your heart today.Pretend like you hold their heart in your hand.You wouldn't yell or be rough in any way.Hearts can break easily.Are you too exhausted to open your heart and feel like you have to fix everything?When do you stop and notice what is really going on?We need to show them kindness and self control, if we want them to adopt these same traits.Again I ask how has your child touched your heart today?Don't forget to give them a hug!


For the HOME
If we want our homes to be happy we have to make it that way!Cutter is,in my opinion the opposite of a happy home.The number of people needing advice about clutter is growing.So is the number of people willing to give that advice.What works for one person might not work for another.But your happiness really does depend on it!So here are some sure fire ways to fight the battle of clutter and keep it away for good!
1.Walk around your home and take a notebook with you.Next you are going to write an area that is cluttered and making you unhappy.
2.Write down next,why it is making you feel that way and what you would rather see.You could also include how you want it to function.Getting it in paper puts it in perspective.I can look at my kitchen and say I really want to cook but there is so many dishes and papers I can't think.It makes me tired and unmotivated.
3.Once you know your problem areas it is time to tackle them one at a time.Notice if your mood is lightening up or not.This is a sure fire way you know this is an area if frustration for you.
4.Pick a spot and set a time limit.Start looking at what the clutter is?How is it getting there?Does it have a home?
5.If it is homeless you need to find it a home.Then put it there.This is the start of a new habit.It will take a while to make it permanent.
6.This is the part where we shout for joy! If you have cleared that area,you need to keep it clean.Put something a note anything to keep you from putting clutter back!
7.Try not to move on to another area until you are no longer tempted to cover that surface.You should get to the point where something comes in and it is dealt with immediately.

Reaching in and Reaching out-Week 6(14 days and 14 ways to show love-Day 5)

According to Pantajali’s Yoga Sutra 2.33, “When the mind is disturbed by improper thoughts constant pondering over the opposites is the remedy.”

For MYSELF
We are not perfect.It would be easy to see ourselves as incomplete.I battle fatigue that leaves me drained and discouraged.I suppose I could wallow and pity myself.At times I do go that route,but it never ends well.To love others and make them happy,first you must love yourself.So I want you to think about your imperfections and embrace them!Look in the mirror.Now really look!What do you love about your face?Look deeply and search.I want you to think I am beautiful!

Be aware of negative self talk.If you find yourself in a cycle of talking down to yourself;try today to think the opposite.

For my HUSBAND
Sometimes we get into a groove or the"day to day" living that is ok but not exciting or spontaneous.Tonight I am not going to look like an overtired wife.I am going to wear a dress and do my make up.Next,I am not going to say I am too tired to anything.Just one night where he feels loved COMPLETELY and in charge!

For my KIDS
Since we are talking opposites today,why not have a opposites day or no rule day.They can do what they want as long as it is not hurting anyone
on the inside or out.This includes themselves!

Today's Prayer
That my husband and children's faith will increase.

For my HOME
I want my home to be a place where everyone feels comfortable.They want to stay because of what they feel while they are there.First of all since I have been thinking about my home having energy(or lack of) I have noticed something.Certain rooms make me happy and some make me tense up the minute I step foot in it.I guess this isn't too strange right?I never really thought to give some of my rooms a makeover.Get out the lipstick,eye shadow and blush!Not for you but for your room?Huh?Maybe. Some brightly colored pillows or showing off some treasured items may just lighten your mood a bit!

He is my cute little accessory!

Reaching in and Reaching out-Week 5 (14 days and 14 ways to show love Day 4)

Love is not only for your family but for you too!Today what are you going to do:

For MYSELF
Today I want you to take a nap.If you can at least try to rest or nap for 15minutes!How long you nap is up to you.Start small and if you want to increase the time that is fine.Be creative to find a time and a place,especially if you are at work.A nap can give you more energy and rejuvenate the mind and body.

For my HUSBAND
My husband hates coming home to and unhappy messy house.Today I made the effort to stop what I was doing when he got home.I gave him a big hug and kiss.In our meeting on Sunday that was one thing he mentioned that made him feel more loved.It is so simple to do but it dies take effort to not bombard him with screaming kids or tell him how tired I am.If you don't know what your Spouse appreciates just ask him and then do it!See what happens!;-)

For my KIDS
How cooking with your kids can be all the therapy they need!If you teach your kids to cook at a young age you are teaching them to be more independent.There is no better time to praise and admire them.It is also a great way to have one on one time and to LISTEN to them.Sure you make a mess,but you can find many teaching experiences in those moments.It brings everyone together.Cooking also gives your kids a sense of achievement and self confidence."I did this!"
It is even a good way to use extra energy or get your frustrations out.Bake some cookies or let them help with dinner.It takes more of your time and patience but the long term effects are well worth it!
Prayer for husband and kids:
That he would be a strong spiritual leader.

For my HOME
Our home is not too different from a cranky,tired child.When a child is too tired they do not function well and all signs lead to an impending melt down.If a room is cluttered it does not function either.How do you feel when you walk into a messy room?Anxious,irritable and maybe a little lost?Take some time to pick up an area that is not functioning.I know a big one,for me,is my kitchen.If I can function in there it trickles into other areas of the house!Set a time and just go!See it looks better already!

Reaching in Reaching out -Week 5 (14 days and 14 ways to show love-Day 3)

For MYSELF
I want to talk to you of a power within us all!This is the power of self image,how we see ourselves.If you tell yourself good or bad things you start to believe it.So why not get a head start on the day and write some down.When you get a chance read or tell yourself these affirmations.It might seem silly but it is effective!Pretty soon you start to believe!It is not a cure all but it is a good START!

Check out these free affirmations


For my HUSBAND
I have been thinking a lot about when we met.Today I wanted to recreate our first date.I visited him for the weekend.So I stayed with his family.We went bowling for our first Date.Well,the kids wanted to do free skate night fir their school so we were overruled.I was hoping to hold his hand while we skated but it was noisy,our kids don't know how to skate,and one REFUSED to skate at all!Then their were melt downs of all decibels and sizes.Did I mention I had a horrible migraine too!!

What happens when your plans go haywire?

Stop!Hug your spouse.This releases good hormones,called oxytocin.It is released into our bodies.This oxytocin lows both our heart rates and our cortisol levels. Cortisol is the hormone responsible for stress, high blood pressure, and heart disease.Good stuff right?So try to touch your Spouse as much as possible.You can hold hands,cuddle,kiss,touch their arm or knee.

For my KIDS
Children want our attention.The best way to connect with them is when they are going to school or coming home.On the way to school you can ask them questions.Talk to them about a test they might be nervous about!

When you pick them up or they walk in the door try to ask more than "how was school?"Be specific and ask questions that are open to discuss and not fall to the "one word" answer.Ask about their day.What was the best?What did they do at recess.What did they read or learn about?If you know that they are writing a paper ask them about that. Another question could be Did anything funny happen today?I think you get the idea right?It takes practice but you can do it!

When it is study time.Sit down with them and read a book or plan your meals.Then you are right there if they need help.

These are three perfect times to be 100% there!

Prayer for today
That he would stand strong against the pull of this world and the spiritual warfare behind it.

For HOME
Wash the inside and outside of your windows.You will be amazed how much more light can come through.

Reaching in Reaching out -Week 5 (14 days and 14 ways to show love-Day 2)

This month we are talking about Love.There is always enough love to go around.I am talking about LOVE

For ME
I thought it would be fun to do some journal writing.If you are not sure what to write about,here are some ideas to get your creative self going.

Find quotes that inspire you.Look at scriptures,books or online.Think about what they are saying to you?Do these quotes help you better love yourself or others.


For my HUSBAND
We are still reading letters that we wrote to each other.Today I put messages all over our room of what I appreciate and love about him.

This couple has been doing these weekly questions.

1. How did you feel loved this past week?
2. What does your upcoming week look like?
3. How would you feel most loved & encouraged in the days ahead?
4. How would you best feel pursued,intimacy wise, this week?
5. How can I pray for you this week?

My husband and I have a meeting each week where we talk about what we love about each other(at least 3 things),what we can work on as a couple and individually.We also use this time to talk about a specific child.

For my KIDS
Since I was focusing on interviews.Here is one for the kids at http://www.centsationalgirl.com

My Dad used to interview us.He would ask all kinds of questions.I remember most prominently,that he would help us make goals.Maybe that is why I am so goal oriented! I am thinking this tradition should continue!It is important to know the interests of your kids.

Prayer for my kids and husband today:

That they will grow in wisdom.

For my HOME
If you are wanting a change why not paint or get crafty.For example painting your kitchen white could brighten up the space.You may need some bright and cheery during those dull winter months.

After a 4 year remodel of their home,a Scandinavian couple was interviewed by Holly Marder.She is a contributor for Houzz. The wife said "The Scandinavians have this philosophy that if you paint your floors, walls and ceilings white, as soon as the sun comes out, your home is so vivid and bright ... like a burst of sunshine,"  (find rest of article here)

Reaching in and Reaching out-Week 5 14 days and 14 ways to show love

Welcome to my 14 days and 14 ways to show LOVE How am I going to show love


For ME
Reaching in:
 Start your day with LOVE.Breathe it in.Meditate and think of love for you and your loved ones.Try this open your heart Meditation if you need an idea of how to start.


Reaching out:

For my HUSBAND
We talked about where we first met and we got out our memory boxes to look at letters we wrote each other.We met at the Missionary Training Center.This is where all missionaries go for guidance and preparation to go on their missions. My hubby and I wrote to each other while we were on my missions.I am still shocked as I look back to that time that we turned our friendship into a partnership.It was a lot of fun and we involved our kiddos in this one.

Here we are sooo young:

For my kids
Put away the phone and play with them or cuddle.I know that I reach for my phone way too often.It has been something to keep me occupied while I feed the baby and now it has just become a bad habit!I am going to try to be on my phone during quiet time.

I also loved this 31-ways-to-pray-for-our-husbands.I added my kids in there.

 That he and my kids would draw close to God.

For my HOME

Everyone loves a  Makeover - Pick a room and show it some love by rearranging the furniture or  adding new pillows or other accessories.Really pay attention to little details and make a note of any maintenance that needs to be done.

Reaching in and Reaching out-Week 4 Day 26 (3 ways to give fully and know yourself)

NEGLECT NOT the gift that is in thee;
MEDITATE upon these things;
GIVE thyself WHOLLY to them.”
1 Timothy 4:14-15

Reaching in:
This week has been energizing and eye opening!U haven't caught up on my writing because I have been so busy.I haven't been busy in the run around,errand kind of days.I figured the only way to find my talents was to try whatever I felt I needed to do.I decided to break down this scrip picture and really look deep.

First NEGLECT not the gift
The most important gift This has given me is to be a Mom! I DO NOT want to NEGLECT such a precious opportunity.Are you with me on this?The next question that comes to mind is what if I fail?Where did the sense of failing come from and why are we so hard on ourselves?The question really should be,what if I don't try?Failing is really just a way to see what is not working.We just need to rework some things ir start over right?
We need to MEDITATE or think about these things.It is not a casual thinking it is get on your knees and really study.Here are few things I have been thinking about:

• Less Facebook and more face to face.Set limits for screen time and spend more time with family.
• Less overscheduled and more rescheduling to make time for YOU,yoyr SPOUSE and family.
• More routines and more sticking to them.Your lufe doesn't have to feel like a routine.However,routines help use your TIME wisely.TIME is valuable.
• Less go,go,go,and even less "letting yourself go".As Mom's we should be at our best.If putting a little time for oyrselves makes us happier and healthier than why should we NEGLECT ourselves?
• Less No's and more I knows.I hate what happens to my child when I tell them no.It is like thier world is over...in their eyes.Still if we could in those moments,however ridiculous they are acting , say "I know you are upset or I know how you feel.Those are the "no's" our children need to hear!
• Get to know yourself.Read this article 5-ways-to-get-to-know-yourself-better and grab your journal!

Give WHOLLY(give whole)Give our heart to God and family.This means COMPLETELY! There is no in between.If you keep working hard and using your time and talents to whatever you do;you will find the treasure inside you!

"Give yourself fully to God. He will use you to accomplish great things on the condition that you believe much more in His love than in your own weakness."Mother Teresa

I hope as Mothers and parents we never stop TRYING........and if we FAIL.....let us have the courage to START OVER.........

When we reach in we also reach out to others.We set the tone in our home dirty or spotless!

Reaching in and Reaching out-Week 4 Day 25

Are you hiding your talent?Are you using it fully?

 Matthew 25:14–30 (parable of the talent)

"Our families are blessed as we use our abilities in our homes. As we learn to sew, cook, and keep an orderly home, we can beautify our lives and lighten others’ work. As we develop a kind and loving nature, we bring peace and harmony into our homes. We can extend our talents to bless the neighborhood where we live. We can bring joy to friends around us as we help those in need."(rest of this lesson found here)

"NEGLECT NOT the gift that is in thee;
MEDITATE upon these things;
GIVE thyself WHOLLY to them.”
1 Timothy 4:14-15

Some talents I have been wanting to learn or re-learn:

• Be more sensitive to feelings.I feel like that used to be a strength,but as I try to discipline and take on my day, I get impatient and angry.What if instead of putting my child in time out all alone,I sat with him/her until they were calm,and talked them through it?How would I feel then?Could I be prompted more easily?
• We love music.My husband and I both like to sing and play instruments.We don't do this very often.I decided for family night I want to do a talent show
• I love to organize,but I am NOT organized.I am trying though and delegating.
• I love to write
• I love people.There are so many times I want to do something but I end up not doing it.I want to put these intentions and thoughts into action!
• The one we can all do more of is positive thinking.If you can have a positive outlook you can further any talent you have or want to have. 

There are so many great things we can learn.I hope you have been thinking about what interests you!Your gift can benefit so many if we use it fully.Wherever we have been holding back,let go.

If we do tend to hide our talents it is for many reasons.You may not feel like you have the time.You may not feel that you are good enough h or can do it as well as another mother.These are all negative thoughts.I can tell you as long as you are TRYING you are good ENOUGH!

How to be more positive-in 2 steps

1.Watch out for negative thinking.Try instead to be grateful for what you have and who you are.Those negative thoughts will soon become positives.This is one of the most important things I do for my happiness blueprint.Replace thoughts of helplessness with being helpful.Hopelessness can become hopeful!
2.Practice being grateful.You can write what you are grateful for down at the end of the day.Learn to change your thinking you change you're attitude.If you change your attitude you change your life!Tore life will be more full and happy!

I wrote more on this here


Reaching out:
What I want to do this week is to write a letter to my family outside my State and give them an update.Instead of writing a Christmas letter for the whole year I thought it would be more fun to break it up month by month.I want the kids to make Valentine's cards as well.

Home:
For our home's this week it is all about getting stuff out of the house.Each day take a garbage sack and pick a room.Set the timer for 15 minutes and pick up garbage.Find one item to get rid of that is not trash.Put that item in a donate box.At the end of the week see if you or the kids missed it.If not donate.If you get some money for selling old clothes to a place like kid to kid.You could donate the money to a charity.Anything goes!Be ruthless!When you are done buy some flowers to brighten up the place.

Things are going well in getting rid of things in my house!I am making so much progress!How is your week going?

Reaching in and Reaching out-Week 4 Day 24

Reaching in:
“NEGLECT NOT the gift that is in thee;
MEDITATE upon these things;
GIVE thyself WHOLLY to them.”
1 Timothy 4:14-15

"To be yourself in a world that is constantly trying to make you something else is the greatest accomplishment". Ralph Waldo Emerson

Gift:Being true to yourself

 We can't help but to feel.Do you ignore your feelings if the people around you don't feel the same way.Don't ignore your emotions.They are a part of you,just like your eye color.Feelings are neither right or wrong they just are. It is also what you do with these emotions that matters.How often have you thought or said I shouldn't feel this way?Why?Are you worried about what others think or that you aren't valuable enough? It is about being true to yourself and knowing what you deeply want.This may sound like I am saying to be self absorbed.This is not the case.I am merely saying don't just do something that you are uncomfortable with or ignore nagging feelings like loneliness or anger.You should allow yourself to move through the your emotions like you are going from point A to B.Have you heard of the term emotional roller coaster.This term means you and your emotions are all over the place.It has ups and downs.I am using this phrase metaphorically .If you move through an emotion you go through the ups and downs until you reach the finish.You can get off the "ride" knowing you have worked through it.The other options are bottling it up,pushing it aside or changing yourself.If you choose these unhealthy route, I think this tells oneself"you aren't important".

This process for the most part is brief.There are times where we keep getting back on the ride because of the drama we feel or denial.Who says there us a select time frame.If it is taking you longer to work through it;there are several options to help.You can find a support system like family and close friends.Journaling and writing how you feel is also one of my favorites!
Honoring our feelings isn’t about thinking you are better than anyone – it’s really about being true to ourselves.

Our emotions are a part of us.I feel that we experience these emotions also that we might lift another.If you have lived it you can empathize with that person.Today try to notice how you feel and also see if you can be in tune with someone else.Maybe a tired spouse or a child who feels they aren't being heard.Sit down with them and help them work through that emotion.You can be sensitive to others while still being true to yourself.


Reaching out:
What I want to do this week is to write a letter to my family outside my State and give them an update.Instead of writing a Christmas letter for the whole year I thought it would be more fun to break it up month by month.I want the kids to make Valentine's cards as well.

Home:
For our home's this week it is all about getting stuff out of the house.Each day take a garbage sack and pick a room.Set the timer for 15 minutes and pick up garbage.Find one item to get rid of that is not trash.Put that item in a donate box.At the end of the week see if you or the kids missed it.If not donate.If you get some money for selling old clothes to a place like kid to kid.You could donate the money to a charity.Anything goes!Be ruthless!When you are done buy some flowers to brighten up the place.

Reaching in and Reaching out-Week 4 Day 23

Reaching in-
 Sister Belle S. Spafford, a former general president of the Relief Society says-
“Homemaking, as I view it, falls into two major divisions: homemaking and housekeeping. Homemaking takes into account the spiritual values: love, peace, tranquility, harmony among family members, security. It makes of a place of residence a spot to which family members can retire from a confused and troubled world and find understanding and rejuvenation. Its character is quietness; it evidences good taste, culture, and refinement. Men, women, and children alike have their individual contributions to make to good home and family life, and each shares in its benefits.

Homemaking can be a gift.There are many different areas of homemaking.What makes a home?First of all the Mom sets the tone.You have more power than you think!The atmosphere is very important in a home.Can you think of someones home you always want yo be in?Why are you drawn there?
I have always wanted to be one of those homes.The busyness of life can throw your house into chaos.It is then time to put on the breaks and look at what your priorities might be.My husband and I counsel with the Lord and each other.We have a meeting together each Sunday and a family council on Saturdays.This helps us work as a team and be aware of what is going on.

Still I am not perfect and I certainly cannot do it ALL!Am I a failure?No and if you are lost in piles of toys,laundry and dishes like me you are not alone.To fully give the gift of homemaking you must start over.This can happen daily,weekly or whenever.Just like any gift it needs nurturing and time.If you are moving forward each day then you are on the right track.Here are a few areas where your true gift and talent may shine:
Cleaning and organizing
Home beautification
Cooking
Meal planning
Teaching
Sewing

Amy Clark Scheren says what homemaking is @http://gospelhomemaking.com
"It's about the day-in and day-out acts of loving and serving our families. It's about managing our homes in a way that blesses others. It's about creating a peaceful and comfortable environment where messy lives and broken hearts can see the gospel being lived out. Where our husband and children and friends can be refreshed and restored. Where we can find and give joy."

Maybe we could look at cleaning as a blessing for our home.I think we all know what we don't like about our home,but what do we like?Peaceful and messy cannot exist,not really.Clutter and mess make the whole family on edge.It feels like nothing is ever finished.What do I propose we do about it?

DISCOVER the lost art of planning.
Everything starts with a plan,its not always well thought out or followed through with,but its there!My happiness blueprint starts with a plan.Plan with a smile and resolve to be happy.That is a gift you can share with everyone!

I suggest that we take back our evenings.Have a party tonight!When the kids are in bed get a notebook out or planner.Write 1-3.On the next page write your Daily list.This is not a schedule but a list of what you HAVE to get done in a day.For example for me:
Read scriptures,pray
Make beds
Dishes and kitchen counters
Laundry(one load per day)
Sweep(several times a day so baby doesn't find a goody on the floor and choke.
Mom time
Straighten Living room and entryway
15 minute de-clutter
Time with kids
Time with hubby
Plan next day
Once you have your daily list go back to the page with numbers 1-3.We are going to write 3 goals to make this to do list happen.Make these goals specific and attainable.The point here is to not overwhelm you.Here is mine:
1.Time with family is most important so make sure cleaning is done before dinner rush.

• Make sure kitchen is clean night before.
• Older 2 kids in charge of table and floors before leave for school
• I clean up after lunch.Sweep and straighten living room
• Move laundry through when kids get home from school

2.Fix night routine

• Find the problems
• Keep kids in kitchen helping
• Get things ready the night before
• 5 minute clean up and inspection.All toys downstairs.

3.10 minutes at least uninterrupted talking with my husband and 10 minutes planning for the next day.

Reaching out:
What I want to do this week is to write a letter to my family outside my State and give them an update.Instead of writing a Christmas letter for the whole year I thought it would be more fun to break it up month by month.I want the kids to make Valentine's cards as well.

Home
For our home's this week it is all about getting stuff out of the house.Each day take a garbage sack and pick a room.Set the timer for 15 minutes and pick up garbage.Find one item to get rid of that is not trash.Put that item in a donate box.At the end of the week see if you or the kids missed it.If not donate.If you get some money for selling old clothes to a place like kid to kid.You could donate the money to a charity.Anything goes!Be ruthless!When you are done buy some flowers to brighten up the place.

Reaching in and Reaching out-Week 4 Day 22

When will my reflection show who I am inside?Thanks to my daughter for borrowing my boots.Cute picture huh?We need to love ourselves and be who we are.

HEALTH

Week 4

Reaching in:
“NEGLECT NOT the gift that is in thee;
MEDITATE upon these things;
GIVE thyself WHOLLY to them.”
1 Timothy 4:14-15

I love and echo what this great woman's group Time out for Women is asking us woman to do!This inspired me for this weeks challenge.Check them out!This group invites women everywhere to discover the gifts they have been given and make sacred time to “meditate” on them.How can we give these talents wholly(fully) to them?

Let yourself shine through.Would you like to unlock your true potential?Stop comparing yourself or to have the perfectly clean house or the greatest hairstyles for your girls.If its not YOU why stress yourself out?Find out what you are good at.We are all born with gifts that our unique to us.

Who are you?As mothers we wear many different hats.Can you wear all the hats at once?Not without looking silly.In addition only one will fit on your head at one time.What I wish to convey is that we cannot do it all or be the best at it all.We can discover what make us shine and make the time to nurture these gifts.Change your perspective and look a little deeper within.It is there!Celebrate your strengths.Strive everyday to be your best self.

If you don't recognize and love the true you; you need to increase your self-esteem and self-confidence.This will improve how you feel about yourself. Gifts come in all different sizes and shapes.SHAPE— Spiritual gifts, Heart, Abilities, Personality, and Experiences.You have a bundle of talents.Like a muscle these talents need to be used.If you don't use them;you lose them.

Challenge:Write at least 3 things you are good at and strengthen those areas.As you do this you will see where you have become strong and beautiful!

HEART

Reaching out:
What I want to do this week is to write a letter to my family outside my State and give them an update.Instead of writing a Christmas letter for the whole year I thought it would be more fun to break it up month by month.I want the kids to make Valentine's cards as well.

HOME

For our home's this week it is all about getting stuff out of the house.Each day take a garbage sack and pick a room.Set the timer for 15 minutes and pick up garbage.Find one item to get rid of that is not trash.Put that item in a donate box.At the end of the week see if you or the kids missed it.If not donate.If you get some money for selling old clothes to a place like kid to kid.You could donate the money to a charity.Anything goes!Be ruthless!When you are done buy some flowers to brighten up the place.

Reaching in and Reaching out-Week 3 Day 21

How have you blossomed this month?How have you helped nurture your kids?

I have really been enjoying these challenges this month.What about you?Hopefully you are aware of yourself and not lost in mommy land and the business of life.Our heart,health and home depend on us taking care of ourselves.These three areas are all encompassing.We need to do a little in each area daily.
Week 1-
Reaching in:
We learned you can't be behind the scenes of our life.Take some time daily if you can for you.Care about how you look,exercise and talk to friends.Do what makes you happy!No more wondering where your day went.

What if we could instead get a behind the scenes look by trusting God and following his plan.What does he want us to do as mothers?

Reaching out:
See who needs your time and give it without interruption.I found it to be my husband most days.

Home
Bring in flowers or plants.Think of yourself and your family as these flowers.They are ready to bloom and it is your job to help them.How can you help yourself and children bloom this week?

Week 2-
Reaching in:
It is important not to work against yourself.Learn to rest more and reflect.Take time to breathe.Learn to listen to your body.Your kids need your time and to be present.It isn't too hard to really listen to them and see how they how much they are and have changed.

Reaching out:
Do something for a neighbor or friend.Give them a call or bring treats.You could also pray for them.

Home:
Working on a project from your to do list.

Week 3
Reaching in:
We have been talking about getting  over mental blocks.Whether we know it or not our mind creates mental road blocks.It can stop us in our tracks like a stop sign.

1.Don't make excuses or blame other people why your life isn't the way you want.
2.Eliminate self doubt-I can't because....
3Stuck in wonder land.I wonder what it would take to do____

My book I have been writing is coming along nicely!Just a few minutes a day.It is important to have a plan.

Reaching out:
Write love notes to kids and husband this week.

Home:
Make room an oasis and relaxing place to be.The biggest change here,for me,is to not throw my clothes on the floor or to let other things pile in.

I think week 4 is going to be the best yet!Stay tuned for tomorrows post..........

Are you happier today than you were yesterday?

Reaching in and Reaching out-Day 19 and 20

Day 19
Reaching in-
Are you feeling like Alice,stuck in wonder land?We are like the rabbit running around,feeling rushed,tired and possibly late for something.Alice is like our wants and desires,trying to catch up with us.Alice asks what are you late for?Your response "for a very important date".Why are we always in a rush?If we don't slow down and think about what we want a little,then we will ask ourselves I wonder if__________.The key to making our dreams fit into our door of life is to find ways to stretch our time until we find the solution.We may need to cut back here or there or ask others to help us so we don't stretch ourselves too far.
Today,look at your time and schedule some time to plan and make goals.Include what you really want.The next time you feel like the rabbit,late,tired,upset and burnt out;think before you jump in the hole!You can be like Alice lazily reading in the sunshine.
Reaching out-
Don't forget to write little love notes.You could put them all over their room.Have the kids write some too!Maybe they still need to write thank you cards from Christmas?
Home-
A great way to make your room more relaxing is to paint it in earthy tones.Different colors evoke different responses.

Day 20
Reaching in-
"The difference between a dreamer and a visionary is that a dreamer has his eyes closed and a visionary has his eyes open"

"I have a dream that one day this nation will rise up and live out the true meaning of its creed: "We hold these truths to be self-evident, that all men are created equal."

"I have a dream today."
Martin Luther King Jr.

As I think of this incredible faith and fight for freedom I am filled with conviction to fight for what I believe and for my children's welfare.We have been talking a lot about our dreams this week.Is there a cause you are passionate about?What about being a Mom? What would your freedom speech be?

There is a lot that changes when you have kids.There is so much to do and not enough time or money.There is a lot parents sacrifice.however I don't think parenthood was supposed to be all we do and no time for ourselves.

" Parenthood is overwhelming because no mother ever thinks she has enough time, help, training, money, or emotional support. This can leave moms feeling trapped, bored, resentful, depressed, irritable, or angry. All of these feelings are normal.

What can you do about them? Identify which parts of your "old life" you miss. Make a list and be very specific — write out "I miss spending time with my best friend" or "I miss staying up late and going out." Come up with as many things as you can and jot each one down, even those that seem silly to you, such as "I miss going out for pizza on Friday night."(Karen Kleiman,Is it normal to miss the freedom )

I have a dream Today!My challenge is just that,to make a list of things you miss and then make a way to do them.Find a way and not excuses.Even if this week has been mostly discovering what you want and making plans.

Reaching out-
Write to a family member about how your month has been and how you miss them.
Home-
Take a look at your room.Is there anything that might be causing stress or trouble sleeping?I have a bad habit of looking at my phone before bed.I have heard t.v and all electronics can disturb sleep.My lack of sleep is due to a little baby.:-)
How do you make your bedroom more restful?

Remember

Think before you jump into the hole.Being too busy can take its toll!

Reaching in and Reaching out-week 3 Day 18

Day 18
Racing in-
Reaching for our dreams can feel like reaching for the stars.It seems so big and intimidating. Where do you start?It starts with a wish.What do you love?Why is it important to you?Where do you see yourself in a year, 2,5,and 10 years.As you think about you want you get "the ball moving".This means you have started to put your dream into motion.To start you just START!Get those dreams out of your head and make goals or steps to reach them.This is key to getting your head out of the clouds and day dreaming to the present and here and now!

I think we psyche ourselves out thinking our dreams our too high out of our reach but when we start we already start the climb and it doesn't seem so big and scary.

Reaching out-
Have you had fun writing notes to your kids and Spouse.I think it help you appreciate them and notice them more.It is special and we can find the time.If you have a hard time getting started, think about an event or something they have done that you are proud of.Another benefit of this lost art of writing is you have to slow down and take the time to really think.

Home-
It has been 3 days and neither myself or my hubby have thrown clothes on the floor!By Valentine's Day it should be a habit and very romantic, don't you think?
Do you use essential oils in your bedroom.Try chamomile,lavender or citrus(lemon or orange).

Reaching in Reaching out-week 3 Day 17

Day 17
Reaching in-
Did you do anything towards your dream today?This week we are taking action!If there is something you have been wanting to do.Now is the time.Over the last couple of days hopefully you know what you want and you are going for it!We talked about making a plan because of course life is life and you can't quit being a Mom or your job.Changing Careers is a big step!Whatever you chose and whatever your path I hope it is moving forward!Fear might try to creep in,but let it motivate you more that you are on the right path.

Fear is very real.When you were little maybe you were afraid of the dark or monsters under your bed.Now that you are older fear of failure can creep up on us like the boogie man.It can grip our heart strings or change how we see ourselves or what is before us.So how do we overcome fear.There is a show called fear factor where people have to do some intense stunts and scary challenges.These contestants look fear in the eye,sometimes literally! What I want you to do today is look your fear in the eye.Then factor in what your fear is and what is causing it.Are there triggers?Is it a new fear or have you felt this way for a while?Write your fear and one goal to overcome it.

For me I fear that I will never publish my books.One thing I want to do is make that phone call to get the ball rolling.

What are you going to do to chase your dreams.
Reaching out
I read this scripture today ....
D&C 64:33
"Wherefore, be not weary in well-doing, for ye are laying the foundation of a great work. And out of small things proceedeth that which is great."

I thought it fit perfectly with motherhood.It is the best thing we can be doing.Enjoy it!Make memories.Your kids will remember those little love notes you wrote.Write a letter today to give to them later on,if you chose,and tell them what you think they might need to know for the future.

Home-
I thought working on our bedrooms was a perfect companion to working on our dreams.We should have a place to relax and inspire us!How is your room looking now?Are the clothes creeping back in?Think about any bad habits you might have.It is so easy to toss our dirty clothes wherever and get into bed isn't it?Another one I am guilty of is when we are expecting company I toss all the odds an ends quickly into my room.So bad!According to feng shui ,clutter can block the flow of chi, lead to stagnation, disturb sleep and generally prevent things in your life from moving forward.The better my room is looking the better I feel but I have to kick those bad habits out the door!Hello Oasis and bye bye clutter!

Reaching in and Reaching out-Week 3 Day 16

"You only fail if you stop trying"

In this case instead of trying I want you to put dreaming.You only fail if you stop dreaming.A dream to me, is your heart speaking to you.Why don't we listen to our heart?I feel it is because we think because we are mothers or fathers we have to put everything on the back burner until the "right time".When is that exactly?We should live like the best is today!No more excuses or blaming people or circumstances. That's right! If you are living for today then yesterdays or the future don't exist.At least for the purpose of focusing on what you want to do for Today.A plan is good and preparing for the future also good.I am suggesting that living in the past and the future could be holding you back!Excuses such as I will wait until tomorrow or until I have more time.Do you feel like your chance has passed you by because of your age,money constraints or someone from your past who crushed your dream?
In high school I was in an art class which I loved!I was so excited at the end of the year to get all my art pieces back to treasure and show off.There was one piece that I worked on for months with using different techniques.I worked so hard on it!When I got my portfolio back it wasn't in there.I asked my teacher so anxious to see it again,and hold it.I still couldn't believe I had created it.Well she came back after looking  for a second and said it had been thrown away!What my prized piece?I felt a knot in my stomach.I was devastated!Then she told me it was ok,because it was crap anyway.Why didn't she just rip my heart out?I was crushed.My dance teacher in high school ripped me apart.After 11 years of dancing I gave up! That, and I needed to raise my grades.My whole life people have told me I couldn't do things because I was too small.It made me more determined!
"Your fingers are too small to play an instrument".......I play the piano and clarinet
"You can't play Soccer/basketball"I was great at defense.

Your past can ignite your passion or trample it.Ignite the fire inside and believe in yourself!If there is something in your past that is holding you back let it go!Live for the present.What you can do now!

“Yesterday is history. Tomorrow is a mystery. Today is a gift. That's why it's called the present.”
― Alice Morse Earle

If you get a present don't you want to open it right away?It is hard to wait.Waiting to open our gift is like you are stuck where you are.Find out what is keeping you stuck?It is hard to not allow ourselves time to do what we want.By opening our present today what will we find?A SURPRISE!You have waited long enough!As you unwrap it imagine throwing away the wrapping.Throw away the negative from the past.Throw away the hurt and look inside your present.It is your dream.How does it feel to hold it and see it.Imagine it.Feel it.It can be real!
Take 15 minutes and START!Write down what you need to do.Do you need to change jobs?Do you need to start saving money?Maybe go back to school or start your own business?Maybe start a new hobby again?You have 15 minutes right?

Take all steps.An infant usually crawls before they walk.The whole process they fall down too!It is ok to start small.The main thing is you do a little bit each day toward your goal.

What I did.I just wrote until I couldn't think any more.I made a goal to have my book ready to publish by Spring.I need to look at where to go to find an agent and how to submit my book.I think to practice I want to bind it myself!

Reaching out-
I thought it would be fun to write a note on my babies diaper to my husband.When he changes the diaper there it is!What are ways you write notes to your kids or spouse?

Home-
To give your room more of a relaxing feel,bring in a little of nature.You can bring in a fountain,plant or flower.Think about the little touches to add to your room.

Reaching in and Reaching out-week 3 Day 15

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HEALTH

Reaching in:

It has been a great journey so far and I have learned a lot.I hope we are all feeling good and relaxed because this next week we are going to be asking some tough questions and taking a giant leap toward our dreams.That is right,just because we are adults doesn't mean we stop dreaming.If there is something holding you back;then you have a mental block.This week I hope we can identify and get over these mental blocks.

Whether we know it or not our mind creates mental road blocks.It can stop us in our tracks like a stop sign.Maybe it is more like a u-turn.Oops can't go there!Sometimes I see a lot of mental caution signs with reflectors and everything!We get stuck or scared to try.Here are just a few roadblocks we might face in anything but especially our dreams.

1.Make excuses or blame other people why your life isn't the way you want.

2.Self doubt-You tell yourself "I can't" because....

3.Fear

4Stuck in wonder land.I wonder what it would take to do____

5.Don't know where to start!

TODAY we get to just dream.Get a journal or a notepad and just start writing.Ask yourself,What do I love?What have I put on hold?What would I be doing if I had no restrictions?These questions should open the "floodgates" to endless possibility.Whatever your heart desires write it down!We will get to how and when later.Pray for help and guidance to make these dreams a reality!It is only God who can put us on the right path.

Tomorrow we jump in to our dreams with both feet!

Excited?I am!!

Each day I will talk about one if the above mentioned roadblocks.This week we will find out why we are stuck.Make goals and don't worry if they are big.Once you get what you want to do  then break it down into smaller goals and much more...

My dream is to write children's book or any book really.I love to write!I am not going to worry if is successfully published or not I just want to write!I think I might make one for my 3 oldest kids?Maybe?

What is your dream?Share if you want to and brighten or lighten someones day!

HEART

Reaching out:

Write love notes to kids and husband this week.I picked this because it is a simple way to show someone love and kindness!There are many printable lunch box notes you can use,or write your own!

HOME

Make your bedroom an Oasis.Break out the candles and soft music!My room is always so full of clothes and stuff that I can never just relax in there!Today's challenge is to clear out the clutter.Pick up the clothes,take anything out of there that should not be.Also clear nightstand,dresser and make the bed!Then I will discuss ways to make it more relaxing and not just a place you keep your bed to fall into every night!

Reaching in and Reaching out-Week 2 Day 14

Reaching in
How has your week been?Have you been running yourself into the ground?I wish I could catch up on sleep!Do you recognize when your body is telling you to get some shut eye?I feel sluggish or my eyes ache.If I am easily frustrated or do something absent mindedly, like put sour cream in the freezer or wonder where my phone is while I am talking on it;then I have surpassed when just a little nap will help.I need a 2 day break.If it is in the middle of the week I might see if a friend or family member can watch the kids.When my husband gets home then I either leave the house or take a nap.If I can't do either I may just go to bed early.If it is the weekend ,my hubby is home and we can take turns.

The trick is not letting it get to the point where I am yanking and yanking on the stores door when I need to push!This week hopefully you have figured out some triggers.For example,not eating and drinking plenty,not getting enough sleep,lack of exercise(you should exercise and get some sun at least 30 minutes per day),and crankiness.This means you should slow down maybe take the day off from the norm or do something relaxing to prevent a blow up of any sort.Don't forget to get ready for the day.Enjoy your beauty!You don't have to stay in sweats all day.Which now that it is noon I should change out of!lol

See more pictures of our Spa day we did a little bit ago.

You cannot be nurturing to others if you don't take care of yourself.You do not need to feel guilty for this.You will be more energetic,happy and ready for almost anything.A dull knife is not as useful as a sharp one!

Reaching out
A few names came to my mind today of neighbors or friends.I decided to think about them and pray for them today.Those days where I wonder how I made it,was I could feel the love and prayers and the Lord was there.

Don't forget to listen to your husband and kids!We have a tradition at dinner to talk about our best and worse of the day.Lately we have been talking about how Christ is in our day.Mealtime is a great time to teach and also to be taught.It is a time to notice and enjoy our kids!

Home
I did some more work in the kitchen.I am getting excited for this weekend!I will hopefully have some color on those outdated cabinets of mine!

Oh yes,and my plants are still doing great!I caught my oldest watering the plants,which had recently been watered recently!Too funny!