Wednesday, February 18, 2015

Valentine to my readers

Hi!Sorry that I have been Missing for a while. My husband and I have been married 11 years! A wonderful neighbor watched all four of our kids overnight so we could have some time together. Then we went to a family history day called Rootstech. It was amazing and we have caught the genealogy bug!

Let's play a little game. I played it with a big group of people and it was a riot! To start off we had to choose our favorite candy from conversation hearts, snickers, almond joy and 3 musketeers. Each candy was a conversation starter:

Conservation hearts- Someone you would like to have a conversation with.
Since I have been thinking about the family that has left this earth I want to talk to My Grandma Howard and Grampa Davis who both passed before I was born.

Snickers-embarrassing moment.
When I was in college I came home late and it was dark in my apartment. I couldn't see at all! I walked right into a door separating all our rooms and woke everyone up. My nose was pretty sore and so was my pride.

Almond Joy- Something that brings you joy.
 My family brings the most joy and the gospel of Jesus Christ. Oh and music!

3 Musketeers- 3 people that have influenced your lives.
 It is hard to just narrow it down to 3 so I might cheat a little. First is my Savior. Second are my parents. Third is my seminary teacher.

Fun huh? Now you know a little more about me. I would love for you to share! I promise to write more soon!

Monday, February 9, 2015

Love challenge for your family and why I was parenting all wrong!

This month is all about love! How to be focusing on relationships of each of my children and spending more time with my husband. I am following the Dating Diva's 30 day love challenge to get more ideas. My marriage has been put on the back burner for our kids, but it has taken its toll. I am noticing our family is happier, because we are happier!

Family is the heart and soul of the home. They are what is most important. I have been trying to focus on my kids more this week and spend special time with them. If I don't have time I find it! I was reading Fablehaven, with my oldest when a passage hit me like a ton of bricks. I was impressed with how the Grandpa listened to Seth and Kendra when they pleaded their case of why they shouldn't be punished. The Grandpa asked  "Were my rules unclear or the consequences?"
Both children agreed that he was clear but Seth felt lied to for the reasons behind these rules. For this unfairness he felt like he shouldn't have been punished.
The Grandpa shocked Kendra with asking what she thought?
She expressed that a reduction in punishment would be fair.
The Grandpa thought about it but warned them that rules lose all power if punishments are not enforced. He decided it was a deal as long as they still paid a price for their disobedience, and they got one more chance.
Both children agreed that was fair. No fighting or yelling and both the adult and children were happy. If only it could be like this always. However, I can learn a lesson from this, and that is to compromise and let the children feel like they are heard. I definitely need to practice this! In addition to compromising I am learning about my kids and accepting them for who they are. The last thing I want to do is crush their spirit and smother their light.

When I had my first born I was so excited! I did not know that I would have post partum depression and that he would be a colicky baby. I remember he would just scream and scream until I had tried it all, I would just have to put him down and cover my ears and pray the screaming would stop! I often wonder if I was in a better place back then, would he have the struggled of stress and anxiety that he has now? As a parent I was figuring how much was overprotective or too strict. I think I put too much responsibility without really thinking. When baby #2 and #3 came along I really needed his help!

My daughter and next boy are both struggling with being in the middle, Also, my daughter wants a sister because she is the only girl. She told me on several occasions that I should either have another girl or get her a cat. Kids are so funny! Both of them struggle with where they fit and test the limits more to get more attention. My little boy is very shy and afraid to try anything new. He is so quiet that he often gets left out. He also wants to keep up with the older 2 so he wants to catch up, but feels bad when he can't.My daughter constantly feels like things aren't fair. She also demonstrates first born syndrome at times.

My youngest has a lot of health issues ands needs lots of extra attention so that has really been the challenge the last few years! He is very happy but thinks everything should be his way. In fact, most of my kids act that way! He really behaves like he is the only child.

So why am I telling you all this? It is my way of saying I accept them and I cannot fight against such strong individuals. The difficulty lies in accepting these characteristics and working with them to encourage strong character development. Sometimes, as parents we get so caught up on teaching them right and wrong, that we forget to teach them to love themselves. I am noticing more, maybe because I am looking for it, when they are coming down hard on themselves. It is really hard for me to not come down on them to so I can "teach them a lesson".

Praying in the heat of the moment is also something I am working on. When I ask the Lord for help I am more calm and able to handle the situation. I am trying to pray more during the day for help and pray when I am invited to a fight by my children.

The kids teachers at church made this beautiful stone with a heart and a little note. It reads: Put this heart in a special place to remind you of your saviors atoning sacrifice and his great love for you.
As I held this little stone in my hand I thought about how each of my children are like this stone. I need to put them in a special place in my heart and let them know daily my great love for them.
How can you show your family your great love for them?

Thursday, February 5, 2015

Ground hog day-Letter G and W (Preschool and Toddler lessons)

Devotional:Moroni 10:20-21
 20 Wherefore, there must be faith; and if there must be faith there must also be hope; and if there must be hope there must also be charity.
 21 And except ye have charity ye can in nowise be saved in the kingdom of God; neither can ye be saved in the kingdom of God if ye have not faith; neither can ye if ye have no hope.

Letters:G and W

Trace G and W and write it.The kids were curious what Ground hogs look like so we looked at pictures. We also watched
Peeps wide world about Ground hogs.

The weather is constantly changing. This week we are predicting the weather. There is a chart to draw a picture for each day. I ask the kids if they think it will be sunny, cloudy, rainy or snowy. Then we played with flashlights and my Toddler was so amazed by his shadow.
Story: Online story at is a story with music and humor to tell children what ground hogs day is about.

Last video I promise! We had to see what Punxsutawney Phil had to say!
6 more weeks of winter!!Aaaaaaaaah!
Songs: What is the weather
Tune: Here we are together
What is the weather?
The weather the weather?
What is the weather?
The weather today?
We are also working on Days of the week. So we sing days of the week song to the tune of Adams Family.
We will be talking about weather the rest of this week and next.Tomorrow we learn more about clouds.